I found a book in my husband's office the other day called I Married Wonder Woman - Now What? I suppose at first I was a little flattered. My husband thinks I'm Wonder Woman? How sweet! Then I realized it was a book about the Proverbs 31-type woman of this century (a P31 woman is a woman that the bible talks about who has is a sort of wonder woman). Someone who's got it all together, who is organized, efficient, and has a great balance in her life as she seeks and conquerors the next big adventure!
Nope. Doesn't sound like me at all!
Ok, I admit it - I do seek adventure. But organized? Having it all together? Efficient? Balance? Not so much. I mean, I try. I try a little too hard at times. I must admit it's tough being a woman today. And if I am being compared to Wonder Woman, the stakes are raised even more! I mean, have you seen how tiny her waist is?
Have you ever looked at another woman and thought that she had it all together? I hope you never looked at me that way. It couldn't be further from the truth! But if that's the case - if people think that - then I'm doing something wrong. I must be wearing some sort of mask (does Wonder Woman wear a mask?). Today I'm feeling the need to rip that mask off though, and let you know how it really goes down for me in my house:
Proverbs 31:11 Her husband can trust her; and she will greatly enrich his life.
Reality: My husband must remind me to do just about everything and I often feel as though I probably make his life more difficult sometimes. He says it's a good balance and that without me he'd be too straight-laced. I say I'm blessed to have a husband who looks at it that way.
Proverbs 31:12 She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.
Reality: I wish. It seems he spends a great deal of his time fixing things that I mess up because I tend to act before I think. God bless him for loving me in spite of this!
Proverbs 31:13 She find wool and flax and busily spins it.
Reality: I don't know what flax is and the only time I spin is in my cycle class.
Proverbs 31:14 She is like a merchant's ship, bringing her food from afar.
Reality: The grocery store is like a mile up the road. I bring our food from aclose, not afar. And sometimes, I bring it from Taco Bell.
Proverbs 31:15 She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household and plan the days work for her servant girls.
Reality: I do get up before dawn but I don't do it to prepare breakfast - I do it to have some quiet time before the household wakes up. Once they do, they pretty much fend for themselves with breakfast because I usually enjoy my quiet time a little too much and then wake them up late. And about preparing a plan for my servant girls....um...I wish I had some servant girls to prepare a plan for! This verse makes me realize that the P31 woman gets a lot of help and maybe THAT's why she's so amazing?!
Proverbs 31:17 She is energetic and strong, a hard worker.
Reality: I hit a wall by about 3pm and slide down from there. Coffee helps.
Proverbs 31:18 She makes sure her dealings are profitable; her lamp burns late into the night.
Reality: I am lucky to make it to 10pm.
Proverbs 31:22 She makes her own bedspreads. She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns.
Reality: Seriously? I don't sew. And I don't wear linen because it requires dry cleaning and pressing - no thank you. I rarely wear purple - mostly black because I hear it's slimming.
Proverbs 31:26 When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness.
Reality: When I speak, I usually try to take back what I said because it didn't come out the way I intended. I try to give instructions with kindness but if I were honest, I'd admit that it doesn't always happen that way. I can be kind of cranky at times.
Proverbs 31:28 Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her.
Reality: My children often tell me how I am the only mom in the whole entire school that doesn't volunteer all the time and how they wish I would be more like so-n-so's mom. My husband does praise me but I think it may be because he knows my love language is words of affirmation.
I think you get the picture. I'm usually falling woefully short of the P31 woman standards. But you know what? This wonder woman isn't reality. But reading about her can help me to evaluate and set some goals for my life. Look over this passage every now and then for a reality check and to take inventory of your own life, but don't hold yourself up to that standard. God loves you and is changing you one day at a time. This can take a lifetime to do! In the meantime, thank God for the small victories you have as you become more and more like Christ with each day. He does love you - no matter how much like wonder woman you are (or aren't)!
On a side note, I just told my husband that I can't believe how UNlike the Proverbs 31 woman I feel I am. He said "Maybe you're more like the Proverbs 3.1 woman?"
Gee. Thanks, honey.